Ever feel like you simply need a break?
Do you feel guilty if you sit down to rest at night…especially if there are still dishes in the sink?
This wise post by Pricilla Dickinson has really resonated with our Power of Moms community, and April and Saren are excited to talk about it…and share some of their own stories.
Show Notes
Read the original post here: Why I Go to Bed With Dirty Dishes in the Sink.
Link to the Article: “How to Renegotiate with Yourself”
Link to the Article: “Mommy’s Quiet Time 101”
Link to the Article: “Mommy is a Person”
Visit our Program or Store page for the Mommy is a Person Video Training.
Music from Creations by Michael R. Hicks
Audio Editing by Christy Elder
This was great! I wanted to add that sometimes I feel frustrated with my husband because he isn’t jumping up to clean with me after the kids are in bed (and sometimes it’s me who is not jumping up to help him) because we are both so tired. Now instead of being a martyr and just doing the cleaning myself but feeling mad at him the whole time, I’ve started saying, “Hey, do you want to help me pick up for 10 minutes and then we can watch a show together?” He is always willing! The job gets done more quickly and I’m not mad at my husband for the rest of the night. Win-win!
Love that Rachel, better together,any project!!! even dishes and clean up 😉 My hubby loves to watch TV – movie together, so what better way to make sure we can 😉 .. Brilliant… Hope this tactic comes to mind rather then getting frustrated, feeling more like a maid, then member of this family TQQ
i listened to this ironically enough while I was cleaning up last nights dishes…at 2:00 this afternoon! Haha! Thanks for making me feel better about that 🙂 I actually have started leaving the dishes at night if they don’t get done. In the morning my teenagers can unload and load and wipe counters as I’m making lunches and getting breakfast. It’s their job anyway to clean it up so I leave it for them. No guilt here!
I’m thinking I am a little hormonal at the moment because the more I listened the more I wanted to cry. Getting any help is generally a “kodak moment” around here. My spouse is gone the majority of the time, my teen boys are less then enthusiastic about housework. I work running our business and homestead and by the end of the day I feel horrible about leaving the dishes, but seriously it’s not like I’m lazy. I’m up at five and generally run till eleven or later. I get up to a mess and start the whole insanity all over again. If I didn’t take small moments even if it’s only a book on tape while I work I think I’d go nuts. I appreciated listening to this even if it didn’t get my dishes done. I’ve told my husband in the past, ” I would like the privilege too of just sitting and watching the tv after dinner and digesting my food!” He looked at me like he finally got why the sink almost always has dishes, that and I cook a lot, and teenage boys snack A LOT. At some point I deserve to quit, even if it’s only once in a while. Or maybe that’s especially once in a while. Thank you for the validation!
Suelynn, you’re doing great. I can completely understand where you’re coming from. For years and years, I was the only adult at home to take care of the house and children, and it sometimes felt like the work never ended! So glad you’re here at Power of Moms. I love being a part of this community because we all understand each other. 🙂