The other night we ventured to an actual sit-down-at-the-table-and-wait-for-your-food restaurant. It serves super yummy Mexican food that doesn’t have a “Bell” in the name. We don’t go to sit-down restaurants often because of the cost to feed seven people and because I have a phobia of one or more of my children having a total meltdown and having to do the “walk of shame” out of said restaurant.
When we walked in, I saw the not-so-friendly glances between the hostesses as they eyed this large family of children. When they seated us SMACK DAB in the middle of the restaurant for ALL to see, I was even more anxious. Please sit us in the corner where not everyone and their dog is watching us. We are a huge spectacle anyway, as not many families with five children eat at this kind of restaurant.
But that night was a Mommy Payday. My kids, all five of them, were incredibly well behaved. They were surprisingly patient and happy. We had only one small incident when the two-year-old threw a chip because the salsa was too spicy. (Handed him my iPhone and he was as good as gold the rest of the night. Cheating? Maybe. I didn’t care.) They tried new foods and liked them!! I was so proud of my kids. Maybe the many times we’ve talked about manners and correct behavior in public finally sank in a little bit. I kept telling them how great they were doing, and they beamed.
And then it was my turn to beam. A sweet woman, probably my mom’s age, came over to me and said, “You have the most beautiful family. You are so blessed. We have been watching you and are so impressed with how well your children behave.” I almost wanted to cry it made me feel so good.
How many times do we as moms get compliments like that? RARELY, if ever! We don’t get enough positive words like that and our paydays can be few and far between. That night, I decided that when I’m a grandma, I am going to compliment moms with children in public.
Then I thought, why do I need to wait until I’m a grandma? Why not start now? Why not compliment my amazing friends when their kids are well behaved at my house? Why not compliment people whose children behave well at church? Why not tell a mom at the park how cute her kids are and how kind they were to let my children play?
Can you imagine how great we would feel if we did this on a regular basis with each other? What if instead of comparing and criticizing we complimented and uplifted? Think of how encouraged we would all feel if we could make each other beam.
Moms unite! Let’s give each other more Mommy paydays! We deserve it!
QUESTION: Have you ever had a stranger compliment you on your children’s behavior? How did it make you feel?
CHALLENGE: Notice specific behaviors of children around you, and compliment their moms! Find three moms this week you can compliment.