Thanks and Giving: How To Be “The Rich Family in Church”

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I know many families (and retailers) have already moved into the Christmas season, but at our house we are enjoying the full benefits of celebrating Thanksgiving. I can’t think of a better segue into the Christmas season than that of expressing gratitude for blessings. The feelings of abundance that come from this practice often lead to feelings of generosity and a desire to give to others. When we are thankful, we feel like giving. Did you catch that? Thanks and Giving.

The converse is true as well, and while the following is an Easter story, it illustrates perfectly how giving to others can fill us with contentment and gratitude for our lives, even if we appear poor in the eyes of others. (For the sake of space, I edited some parts of the story. To read the original true story and about the author, click here.)

The Rich Family in Church by Eddie Ogan

I’ll never forget Easter 1946. I was 14, my little sister Ocy was 12, and my older sister Darlene 16. We lived at home with our mother, and the four of us knew what it was to do without many things. My dad had died five years before, leaving Mom with seven school kids to raise and no money.

By 1946 my older sisters were married and my brothers had left home. A month before Easter the pastor of our church announced that a special Easter offering would be taken to help a poor family. He asked everyone to save and give sacrificially. When we got home, we talked about what we could do. We decided to buy 50 pounds of potatoes and live on them for a month. This would allow us to save $20 of our grocery money for the offering. Then we thought that if we kept our electric lights turned out as much as possible and didn’t listen to the radio, we’d save money on that month’s electric bill. Darlene got as many house and yard cleaning jobs as possible, and both of us babysat for everyone we could. For 15 cents we could buy enough cotton loops to make three pot holders to sell for $1. We made $20 on pot holders. 

That month was one of the best of our lives. Every day we counted the money to see how much we had saved. At night we’d sit in the dark and talk about how the poor family was going to enjoy having the money the church would give them. We had about 80 people in church, so we figured that whatever amount of money we had to give, the offering would surely be 20 times that much. After all, every Sunday the pastor had reminded everyone to save for the sacrificial offering.

The day before Easter, Ocy and I walked to the grocery store and got the manager to give us three crisp $20 bills and one $10 bill for all our change. We ran all the way home to show Mom and Darlene. We had never had so much money before. That night we were so excited we could hardly sleep. We didn’t care that we wouldn’t have new clothes for Easter; we had $70 for the sacrificial offering.

We could hardly wait to get to church! On Sunday morning, rain was pouring. We didn’t own an umbrella, and the church was over a mile from our home, but it didn’t seem to matter how wet we got. Darlene had cardboard in her shoes to fill the holes. The cardboard came apart, and her feet got wet, but we sat in church proudly. I heard some teenagers talking about the Smith girls having on their old dresses. I looked at them in their new clothes, and I felt rich.

When the sacrificial offering was taken, we were sitting on the second row from the front. Mom put in the $10 bill, and each of us kids put in a $20. As we walked home after church, we sang all the way. At lunch Mom had a surprise for us. She had bought a dozen eggs, and we had boiled Easter eggs with our fried potatoes! 

Late that afternoon the minister drove up in his car. Mom went to the door, talked with him for a moment, and then came back with an envelope in her hand. We asked what it was, but she didn’t say a word. She opened the envelope and out fell a bunch of money. There were three crisp $20 bills, one $10 and seventeen $1 bills.

Mom put the money back in the envelope. We didn’t talk, just sat and stared at the floor. We had gone from feeling like millionaires to feeling like poor white trash. I knew we didn’t have a lot of things that other people had, but I’d never thought we were poor. That Easter day I found out we were. The minister had brought us the money for the poor family, so we must be poor. I didn’t like being poor. I looked at my dress and worn-out shoes and felt so ashamed—I didn’t even want to go back to church. Everyone there probably already knew we were poor!

(The next Sunday) at church we had a missionary speaker. He talked about how churches in Africa made buildings out of sun dried bricks, but they needed money to buy roofs. He said $100 would put a roof on a church. The minister said, “Can’t we all sacrifice to help these poor people?” We looked at each other and smiled for the first time in a week. Mom reached into her purse and pulled out the envelope. She passed it to Darlene. Darlene gave it to me, and I handed it to Ocy. Ocy put it in the offering.

When the offering was counted, the minister announced that it was a little over $100. The missionary was excited. He hadn’t expected such a large offering from our small church. He said, “You must have some rich people in this church.” Suddenly it struck us! We had given $87 of that “little over $100.” We were the rich family in the church! Hadn’t the missionary said so? From that day on I’ve never been poor again. 

As mothers, we have the power to set the tone in our families this Christmas season, and using Thanks and Giving as a guide is a good start. In our world of discontent it can be easy to think that only those living in a Pottery Barn-ish home are in a position to give, but the message of this story tells us that’s not true. All of of us have something to put on the symbolic collection plate, and by doing so we too can teach our children what it means to be the rich family.

QUESTION: What are your richest blessings? Have you experienced gratitude in your abundance and the joy of giving even when you may have appeared “poor” to others?

Use the holiday of “thanks” as a time to plan for the season of “giving”.


  1. Willow says

    what a wonderful article! We are struggling this year and I have been feeling sad not being able to provide the gits my kids really want for Christmas. But the fact of the matter is we are doing just fine and will have a wonderful Christmas. We also will be figuring out a way with our kid to donate to a charity!

  2. Laura says

    I love this story and will be sharing with my family. What a fantastic message. Even the little amount we have to give can mean so much to another. Happy Holidays!

  3. danielletaylor.porter says

    oh this is such a great story…I want to use it with my kids this week as we are enjoying Christmas time- and trying to remember what is most important.

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