For a teenager, its just not “cool” to ask mommy for a hug when you’re sad, or to demand attention for a job well done by incessantly chanting, “look, look, look mommy, look!” (Which works, right?) So, how do we show teenagers love in a way they can receive?
According to researchers, the teen brain grows and changes significantly during puberty. How can this knowledge influence the way we raise our teenagers?
I love that my girls are self-sufficient. We started that training when they were very young. But I am struggling with the fact that they will actually leave my house in the way-too-near future.
After having raised a few teenagers, I have discovered something that works every time. If I make sure that I am sitting on the living room couch when they get home, they will come in through the door, sit down near me, and TALK! I have experienced this “little miracle” again and again with my […]
There’s a lot of talk in the world of paid employment about “skill sets.” Specific skill sets are desirable and even required for certain jobs. Without them, you may not get hired, and if you don’t keep up on them, you may get fired. But what of a mother’s “required” skill sets? For better or […]
Yesterday I was talking to the mother of three young children about how her summer was going. Listening to her description of their fun, lazy adventures made me wistful for the days when all my children were “little” and the only thing I had to think about was how to keep them happy all day. […]
Initially, my children met my idea with skepticism. My daughter said, “Uh, honestly Mom? I don’t think I have an hour a week for you.” Good thing she laughed after she said it. But she was right—we were having a hard time finding an hour to even have a conversation.
As teens move toward independence, some parents misinterpret this as a reason to be less involved in their children’s schools. However, research has shown that parent involvement at every level of school is important and will positively impact student achievement.
Children of all ages often feel that they don’t have all the freedom they want and this can be manifest in tantrums and power struggles and teenage rebellion. How do we decide what choices our children should have? How do we help them recognize the freedom they already have? How do we help them learn […]
This article was originally published on June 4, 2011. It used to drive me crazy when mothers of older children would say this to me. All I could think was how easy it was for them to say that when their children could bathe themselves, dress themselves, feed themselves, entertain themselves, get in and out […]
While mini-catastrophes mean nothing in comparison to the larger problems of the world, these types of experiences happen day in and day out in family life. And if we aren’t careful, they can wear us down and cause us to look at our otherwise wonderful lives through an irritated and gloomy lens.
When I woke up 30 minutes before my alarm went off, I thought, “If I wake Spencer up right now, he could play the game for a little while before it’s time to leave.” Then came a little internal battle: Really? Do you EVER wake up a sleeping child so he can play a video game?