It is OK to struggle; everybody does. It is what we do as a result of the challenge that matters. Will we learn from it or allow it to defeat us?
At my first set of student-teacher conferences, I was taken aback when an Indian mother turned to me and said, “Please be stricter with my son. he needs a firm hand, and he needs to take his studies much more seriously.” I had thought her son was doing just fine, but she clearly thought he could do much better.
Being a mom and being with children can be fun, at least some of the time. But I’ve had a a few experiences lately that have shown me the value of pure fun, just for myself.
An outside look at your family might give you just the perspective you desperately need.
It’s great to plan a family trip when everything goes well and everyone has a good time, but when things start to fall apart, it becomes an adventure! “Our trip became one of the weaving moments of the fabric of our family, and hopefully we taught our children that when it rains, you sing.”
When I finally realized how one word created such negative emotions, I decided to ban it from my vocabulary. I was shocked at how much altering my word choice altered how I thought about myself and my responsibilities.
It is possible to take a new look at failure and find the victories and celebrations hidden inside. We can choose to see failure not as the outcome we anticipated, but instead as the sum total of who we are as mothers.
I was recently with a group of my trusted friends when I sheepishly admitted that I don’t like playing with my kids. Fortunately, they had lots of good ideas of ways to make play more natural and enjoyable for me as a mother.
Are you ever baffled by your child’s obsession with screens, phones, or video games? Dawn Wessman models a child-lead discussion that eliminated battles, improved her son’s mood, increased learning and activity level, as well as deepened their relationship.
You mean my teenager wants me to stand behind what I say?
I needed to take control of my negative thoughts and find a way to appreciate myself as a mother, so I found four ways to focus more on the good “mom”ents than the bad.
Just as the seasons are in a constant cycle of change, so are our lives. Each stage of motherhood from the baby years to the teenage years comes with its own set of joys and challenges.