A trusted friend once told me, “In motherhood, the hard moments sometimes outnumber the beautiful moments, but the beautiful moments always outweigh the hard moments.” I have developed a few strategies to give the perfect moments in motherhood even more weight so they can anchor me through the hard times.
While mini-catastrophes mean nothing in comparison to the larger problems of the world, these types of experiences happen day in and day out in family life. And if we aren’t careful, they can wear us down and cause us to look at our otherwise wonderful lives through an irritated and gloomy lens.
I would ask myself, “But how? How can I make it every day with pain that is so deep and dark? How do I keep going?” I soon realized I did not have to take it day by day. I could simply do minute by minute, slowly working through the cycle of grief while holding onto hope for a better tomorrow.
In today’s podcast, author Rachel Nielson reads four of her articles about concrete ways that she finds hope and fulfillment as a mother, even in the hardest of times.
Most of us experience difficult circumstances at one time or another in our lives, and our need for support can be literally like needing air to breathe. But even in good circumstances, we still need others! This book teaches us that needing others is not shameful, but wise.
I realized that I needed to reconsider my purpose in playing games with my children. Was the point to spend enjoyable leisure time with them? Or was I trying to teach them the rules of the game?
How do you deal with stressful situations in a healthy way? Rachel Nielson has a simple, effective way to handle frustration without resorting to negativity.
As summer approaches, my heart sinks because my children will be leaving. Since my divorce, I am legally bound to turn them over to their father. Now my summers are filled with time. And I am trying to savor the gift in spite of its aftertaste.
When my third child was born, I think 90 percent of my prayers revolved around our collective sleep patterns. (Please let the baby sleep!) These prayers never seemed to be answered. This did not cause me to lose my faith in the power of prayer, but it did cause me to reflect on how I could improve my prayers to ask for things that God is more able to answer.
It’s great to plan a family trip when everything goes well and everyone has a good time, but when things start to fall apart, it becomes an adventure! “Our trip became one of the weaving moments of the fabric of our family, and hopefully we taught our children that when it rains, you sing.”
I was recently with a group of my trusted friends when I sheepishly admitted that I don’t like playing with my kids. Fortunately, they had lots of good ideas of ways to make play more natural and enjoyable for me as a mother.
When many things demand my time and energy, I can easily become stressed. This book helped me not only understand stress and why it occurs, but also helped me to find constructive and healthy things to do right in that moment so that I can keep my cool and calm down.