Tonight my three-year-old and I had a little stand-off. He wanted to wear his brother’s roller skates (instead of his own), and he thought that kicking, screaming, hitting, and biting would do the trick. Dinner was on the stove, my husband was delayed getting home from work, I’d just had a full afternoon of unproductive […]
Motherhood is often punctuated by challenges, sometimes small and mundane and sometimes lasting and heart-wrenching. How can we get through them? The Stockdale Paradox, a mix of optimism and discipline, could be part of your solution.
This article was originally published on June 14, 2010. Submitted by Leslie Harkness: When Aaron and I were married in August 2002, our hopes and dreams of starting a family felt so close and we started trying to have a baby right away. After a few disappointing years, loads of tests and surgery… in March […]
Our bumpy morning was a simple reminder to me that when my kids are having a tough moment and I find myself guessing what I should do next, it never hurts to take a step back, regroup, reach into my heart, and dish out some extra unconditional love.
This article was originally published on June 4, 2011. It used to drive me crazy when mothers of older children would say this to me. All I could think was how easy it was for them to say that when their children could bathe themselves, dress themselves, feed themselves, entertain themselves, get in and out […]
Are you depressed? If so, you’re not the only one. In fact, the third Monday of every January (this coming week) has been dubbed “Blue Monday” since 2005. Just check out this article to see how you can put the “blues” behind you.
A trusted friend once told me, “In motherhood, the hard moments sometimes outnumber the beautiful moments, but the beautiful moments always outweigh the hard moments.” I have developed a few strategies to give the perfect moments in motherhood even more weight so they can anchor me through the hard times.
While mini-catastrophes mean nothing in comparison to the larger problems of the world, these types of experiences happen day in and day out in family life. And if we aren’t careful, they can wear us down and cause us to look at our otherwise wonderful lives through an irritated and gloomy lens.
I would ask myself, “But how? How can I make it every day with pain that is so deep and dark? How do I keep going?” I soon realized I did not have to take it day by day. I could simply do minute by minute, slowly working through the cycle of grief while holding onto hope for a better tomorrow.
In today’s podcast, author Rachel Nielson reads four of her articles about concrete ways that she finds hope and fulfillment as a mother, even in the hardest of times.
Most of us experience difficult circumstances at one time or another in our lives, and our need for support can be literally like needing air to breathe. But even in good circumstances, we still need others! This book teaches us that needing others is not shameful, but wise.
I realized that I needed to reconsider my purpose in playing games with my children. Was the point to spend enjoyable leisure time with them? Or was I trying to teach them the rules of the game?