You don’t have to wait for your kids to behave better or for your house to be cleaner in order to get off of the roller coaster. You don’t need anything outside of you to change. All you need is to pay attention to what is happening in your mind.
Motherhood isn’t about being, it’s about becoming. At each stage of motherhood, we are beginners. We don’t just become mothers when we give birth; we become mothers as we trudge through all the trial and error, the self-doubt, the worry, the overwhelmingly hard days, and the joy, too.
In today’s podcast, author Rachel Nielson reads four of her articles about concrete ways that she finds hope and fulfillment as a mother, even in the hardest of times.
When I finally realized how one word created such negative emotions, I decided to ban it from my vocabulary. I was shocked at how much altering my word choice altered how I thought about myself and my responsibilities.
It is possible to take a new look at failure and find the victories and celebrations hidden inside. We can choose to see failure not as the outcome we anticipated, but instead as the sum total of who we are as mothers.
When I found myself running alone on a dark road without a headlamp, I realized the importance of having my own light—not only in running, but also in my everyday life.
I needed to take control of my negative thoughts and find a way to appreciate myself as a mother, so I found four ways to focus more on the good “mom”ents than the bad.
I want to live in a community where women can showcase their strengths and pursue their talents– at home and in the workforce–without the fear of being or looking “too good.” When women excel, at anything, it is good for all of us.
I used to have more mom-related demands in some areas (diaper changing, mess-clean-up, bathing and feeding kids) and a lot less in others (driving to activities, helping with homework, dealing with moods, emotions, and friend drama). As my mom always says, life doesn’t get easier – it just gets different.
As an overwhelmed new mom, Rachel Nielson finally acknowledged that she had an eating disorder. As part of her counseling, Rachel learned about a mindset called “intuitive eating” which taught her how to trust, respect, and listen to her body. Listen in as April and Rachel discuss what she learned.
It is the most challenging and yet rewarding job in the world: motherhood. I have learned a few things in my 22 years as a mother. Here are the top five things I would share with mothers who don’t have as many years under their belts.
Of course, it would be ideal to give our best every single day. But now I know that today’s best is different from yesterday’s best. And some days I’ll admit that I am not even giving my best. But I am still giving. And that is enough.