Submitted by Jessica Hicks
I became a mother six and a half years ago, and now have three beautiful children. To be honest, mothering has been what I had hoped and expected it to be. But what I didn’t realize is how easily I am affected by the negative patterns of parenting (abuse) that I learned growing up. Nobody is perfect, mothering is hard work, and to mother with intention and purpose is even more challenging.
What I want to say is that it IS possible to be a link in the family chain that changes the pattern of abusive behavior.
Just recently I was speaking with my family doctor. While we talked about some personal things, he said, “You are a big girl, you can make your own decisions.” Yes, nearly 30 is old enough to make my own decisions! I am beginning the process of mothering with intention, fully “cutting the apron strings” and putting the negative influences of my childhood behind me, so I can quit making excuses for others and focus on my own family: me, my husband and our children.
I am the link in our family chain that will change the course of my children and future generations. I can move forward and mother with a greater intention to love, uplift, and help my children reach their potential, through mothering with intention.
QUESTION: Are there negative parenting patterns in your family history you need to overcome?
CHALLENGE: Identify a negative behavior you learned growing up and begin to change it. We all have something! Seek professional help, if necessary.
Radel says
That was a lovely post. thank you for sharing. I am the daughter of a mother who stopped the cycle of abuse and for that I can be eternally grateful. Thank you for mothering with intention to stop the patterns in your family as well. You will be blessed for it and your kids will thank you for it.