Did I Grow Up to Be “Nothing?”

I had a very eye opening experience with my almost-five-year old son this week that really made me think about my role as a mother.

My son and I were having a conversation about how he wants to be a fighter pilot when he grows up. I typically use these little moments to stress the importance of learning and education. Then he looked at me and said, “But mommy, you just grew up to be NOTHING!”

Upon hearing these words I had such a surge of emotion. I immediately got defensive as I told him his mommy was an engineer just like daddy and that I had worked and made money for many years just like daddy. As I looked at my little boy, my heart softened. I gave him a hug, told him I loved him and explained that I made the choice to stay at home and take care of him. A sweet exchange took place as he told me he loved me and that he was glad I took care of him.

Later that day I pondered on why I had been so defensive with my first response. I worked hard for many years while I was going to college and afterward in the workforce so I could “be something”. I did not always value motherhood and at times during my life had very similar views to that expressed by my son. Little did I know during those years that one day my greatest source of joy would be mothering my 4 children. I truly love being a mother and now I know even if they see me as only their mommy that is enough.

QUESTION:  Do you value your motherhood?

CHALLENGE:  Look at your children and remember why…

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About Amber Gillette

Amber has four children, ages 5, 3, 2 and 3 months. She and her family live in southern Utah. She earned her bachelor’s degree in environmental engineering and spent four exciting years as a transportation planner for the Salt Lake Olympic Committee. Amber wasn’t sure she would ever have another job that could top this experience, until she became a mom and realized this new “career path” was the most rewarding and fun experience of her life. Most of her time is spent playing with her children and taking care of their many different needs. Amber loves to play the piano, read, sew and do digital scrapbooking. After becoming a mom, she discovered several other hidden passions, including photography and teaching. She and her family love outdoor activities and the adventures that follow with little ones in tow. Amber’s favorite quote is taped to her computer: “The work will wait while you show the child the rainbow, but the rainbow will not wait while you do the work."