I think most of us are living a different version of motherhood than what we imagined. But I’m convinced we can thrive if we realign expectations and release the guilt. I’ve come to accept my children are more adaptable than I imagined and more gracious than I deserve.
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In the case of family meals, I strongly feel that every capable member should contribute. If you are anything like me, you have a million reasons why this is impossible. But believe me, it is doable. And it will change. Your. LIFE.
Before I became a parent, I imagined playing carefree with my children for long stretches of time each day. Before I became a parent, I also didn’t realize that I would refuse my children’s requests to play with them several times on any given day because I had other things to do.
Looking back on my transition from working full-time to becoming a harried new mom and then eventually a seasoned household CEO, I’ve pinpointed some tactics that helped me through the hard years.
Although my children may have left traditional “reading, writing and arithmetic” behind them at the school door, there are plenty of ways to have fun and still engage their brains during the summer.
Initially, my children met my idea with skepticism. My daughter said, “Uh, honestly Mom? I don’t think I have an hour a week for you.” Good thing she laughed after she said it. But she was right—we were having a hard time finding an hour to even have a conversation.
I have never had much trouble saying no to things that would detract from my happiness rather than add to it. For me, feeling comfortable saying no comes down to four basic strategies.
If you’ve ever gotten sick or felt run down over the holidays, you’ve experienced the fallout of holiday stress. If you tend to overdo it during the holidays (or anytime), or if you are just interested in taking extra good care of yourself, try one of these 12 simple ideas.
I had a dilemma. I didn’t want to sacrifice these precious moments by cleaning. Now, instead of cleaning out of a need for perfectionism, I’m cleaning with the good of my family in mind.
This week it was easy to see where I fell short, but I can also see how I’ve grown. When my flaws revealed themselves, I showed the strength to get my act back together. What the worst parts of me had damaged, the best parts of me had fixed.
When I was cut off from technology, I found an inner clarity and peace that I hadn’t thought possible in a hectic home with four young children. As it turned out, it was possible all along. I just had to stop staring at a screen long enough to see it.
After years of struggling with how to “do it all,” I’ve finally figured out a simple idea (though still not easy in practice) for how to get everything done.