Do you ever find yourself feeling overwhelmed and going through obligatory motions for the sake of keeping tradition? Would you like to free yourself from this trap or prevent yourself from falling in all together? If so, I suggest the following three solutions: simplify, delegate, and establish boundaries.
Posts in the "Your Time" category:
A visit to the doctor told me that my stress was affecting my health. I realized that I had to do something to get some much needed time for myself. It wasn’t always long, but I consistently started to do something for myself every day.
As my kids have gotten older, I have more free moments in my life. I have looked forward to these moments for years and want to fill them intentionally. Here are some of the things I have chosen to do with these small spaces in my day.
When I was in college, I could barely wash dishes. It’s not that I didn’t want to, I just didn’t have the skills. Fast forward to being a busy mom with young children. If I could delegate tasks to my children, I would be teaching them valuable skills. But how?
Being organized in the housecleaning arena is a must for me. I get bothered seeing a messy spot in my house. However, if I know I’ll get to that messy spot on its assigned day it doesn’t bother me as much. So, I came up with a weekly cleaning schedule.
As the mother in our house, I had control over the schedule. I was successful at this motherly duty and everyone arrived where they were supposed to be and with what they needed. That was until last Fall, when our family decided to come up with a plan to eliminate debt.
I usually read magazines in the bathtub as I soak my cares away. However, my magazine subscriptions it seemed that my magazine mountain was growing rather than shrinking. The mountain wasn’t the problem. The fact that I never found time to read them was the problem. But, I discovered a solution.
In addition to simplifying my life a little, I feel like I’m truly connecting with my children now on a meaningful basis. Those moments we steal away together during their dedicated week have added up and I can sense it in our relationship with one another.
For mothers, every day is unique. But there are definitely patterns and themes when it comes to managing our energy. Check out this deliberate mother’s solution!
My mother didn’t make me quit, nor did she make me play, she simply inspired me. She showed me that you’re never too old to try something new, and that even when you mess up, you just keep on playing through.
This humorous and validating post describes the “unseen work” of mothers: chauffeuring our kids, studying our kids, teaching our kids, planning traditions for our kids, and managing all of the paperwork that comes along the way!
I think most of us are living a different version of motherhood than what we imagined. But I’m convinced we can thrive if we realign expectations and release the guilt. I’ve come to accept my children are more adaptable than I imagined and more gracious than I deserve.