I’ve struggled to know how to respond in that moment when I’m feeling exhausted and frustrated and the older lady tells me to “enjoy every moment.” I think the message underneath her advice is, “I miss my kids. I miss being a mom.”
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Without nurturing their own energy, passion, and health–and without setting limits on their own activity–women are useful to no one. Self-care is about controlling your own health and happiness. It means the people in your life receive the best of you rather than what is left of you.
April reads three amazing posts created by deliberate mothers in our community: “Everyone Needs Backup” by Aubrey Degn, “Exercise Therapy” by Sarah Badat Richardson, and “How to Have Difficult Conversations with Your Child’s Teacher” by Amanda Hamilton Roos.
We knew she was often on social media, scrolling through the feeds of her friends and assessing how many likes their photos had compared to her own. So, as a family, we decided to establish when and where we could be on social media and how we would use it.
There is no bickering or arguing. There are no accusations of “You got to pick yesterday!” In a house with four boys, this tiny victory feels huge.
I found myself at the end of the day, frustrated and angry at myself for failing to do what I should have done. Then in a quiet moment I thought, Stop listing your failures. Start listing your successes.
Initially, my children met my idea with skepticism. My daughter said, “Uh, honestly Mom? I don’t think I have an hour a week for you.” Good thing she laughed after she said it. But she was right—we were having a hard time finding an hour to even have a conversation.
There are many things I want to do in my life and most of them are made more difficult by motherhood: write books, travel the world, get a master’s degree, read more, learn photography, take classes in everything from art to astronomy…Ultimately I realized, who I want to be is more important than all of those things that I want to do.
Would you like some incredibly simple ways to bring more power and joy to your mothering? Join April and Rachel Nielson of the 3in30 podcast as April shares stories about her mom and how her example can help each of us as we strive to be the mom we want to be.
If I didn’t have these weaknesses, I wouldn’t have these strengths. I can embrace this person I was made to be and not be quite so caught up in trying to be someone else. I kind of love who I am now that I can see it more clearly.
When you run into a challenge, do you ever wish you could “phone a friend” or call in a back up? See how one mother does just that.
Do you ever feel like throwing in the towel? Being a mom can just feel SO hard sometimes; but we can NEVER give up! In this audio post, April shares six reasons to never give up on motherhood.