Alone in a quiet hospital, holding her new baby, Heather Bell reminds us that God is with us, always.
Posts in the "Getting Through Hard Times" category:
We’re all about looking our children in the eye, validating their feelings, and helping them feel important and heard. While I agree that it’s absolutely vital to acknowledge and validate a child’s feelings, I actually think there are times when the best thing you can do for them is to simply ignore them.
Motherhood is full of surprises. Some are frustrating, scary, challenging or tragic. Some are joyful and beautiful. Join Saren and April as they discuss some of the hard and wonderful surprises that motherhood has brought to them.
Because we expect “progress” to mean “improvement,” we sometimes forget that growth means “growing pains” both physically and emotionally for both parent and child. Just as my son’s joints ached as he grew four inches over a summer, so too do we hurt sometimes as we stretch to new heights in our lives together.
It can be hard to really enjoy the “now” when you’re getting slammed by so many hard things all the time. It can be easier to see the beauty in things that are past than in things that are present. Saren shares some ideas for cherishing the beautiful precious present with our children.
As moms we have hard days. Someone is sick, jobs are lost, days are long, money is tight, messes are made, things don’t go as planned. But there is a bright tomorrow. Maybe it’s not a literal tomorrow, but there is an ending to the difficulties somewhere in your future.
Before Nate’s birth, I had what I thought was a pretty good life. I had a husband who was working two jobs to take care of our family, two sweet little girls, and a home we loved. But I didn’t realize how shallow I had become.
Have you ever had one of those school breaks when everything goes wrong? When 100 things all combine to make it horrible? We just had one, and I never want it to happen again.
I don’t know exactly why postpartum depression hit me with the last birth and not the first two–and though that is frustrating, I’ve come to realize that I am just not privy to the full truth of hormones, sleep deprivation and postpartum life. To get through postpartum depression (and the difficulties of motherhood generally), I found a few strategies that have worked for me and have helped me develop more patience with myself and my kids.
When author Heather Craw gave birth to preterm twins after a very complicated pregnancy, she realized that the fears and worries she felt during that difficult time were actually a form of love.
All day, I had a sense I was forgetting something. If I could just remember it, my sense of unease would disappear. But I was surprised to realize I was not forgetting a task or an item to check off my to-do list. Instead, I was forgetting to have a deep patience with my own homesickness.
After 15 years as a mother, the reasons why I think it’s so important to be there for my kids are not what you would think. The real reasons are the hard stuff. The “no fun” stuff. I want to be the one that takes care of all those things. Because I know that my husband and I love these kids more than anyone else on earth.