Building up Family Members and Ourselves – Episode 65

thumbs up.jpgIt’s so easy to see the things that are left undone, not done to our standards, or forgotten by ourselves and family member, that we often overlook all the good that we and others are doing.

How can we concentrate on the positive? How do you keep your confidence up? How do you help your children see the progress they are making? How do you make sure your husband is appreciated for the things he does?

In this podcast, Saren Eyre Loosli and Tiffany Sowby discuss practical ideas for building up our families and creating a positive attitude in our homes.

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Music from Creations by Michael R. Hicks.

Photo courtesy of imagerymajestic at freedigitalphotos.net

Audio Editing by Christy Elder

Comments

  1. Beth NC says

    Thank you for this. Building ourselves up is a step that many of us may skip. Your talking about that first highlights how important that is. It’s hard to build someone else up if you put yourself down.

    In my house, the third-person compliment is effective. I can and do thank my child for helping put away groceries. But if he hears me mention it to his father, child is doubly proud. And – I think Dad is really pleased to hear the good news, too!

  2. Kelly says

    Thank you for this reminder! This is really an area I struggle with, as I tend to see what isn’t done versus what is done. I will definitely start incorporating some of these into my life.

  3. Rachel Nielson says

    One way that I try to build myself in front of my kids (while also teaching them that it’s important to do hard things) is I will say, “I did it! I went grocery shopping even though that is hard for me! Woohoo! I am awesome” And we all cheer. :)

    I loved Tiffany’s story about her husband and her instinct to criticize when she got home and the house was still a mess. Boy have I been there! I also wanted to point out that even if all of the other stuff HADN’T gotten done while she was gone, it would still be important not to criticize him. Sometimes we have “off days.” Sometimes I don’t manage to get much of anything done while he is at work, and I would be furious and sad if he came home and criticized me for that. I think in families, it’s so important to just give each other the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes when I get home from being out and the dishes aren’t done, but my husband is on his computer watching soccer, I want to freak out on him, but I bite my tongue and think, “My husband is a really helpful person” (which he is), “so there’s probably a good reason that the dishes aren’t done. He probably had an exhausting day at work and just needs a minute. Or maybe he didn’t even notice the dishes in the sink.” I try very hard to cut him some slack, and instead of starting a fight, I will chat with him about his day for a few minutes and then say, “Hey, can you help me get the kitchen picked up?” I don’t always succeed at holding back my critical comments, but I try. I read a book called Surrendered Wife early in my marriage, and it has helped me a lot to stop being controlling and critical. It’s a terrible title, but the book has some good ideas that I think are applicable not only to marriages but also to parenthood. It’s all about surrendering control.

    Thank you for the great podcast, ladies! You are both amazing mothers and people!

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