Freedom to choose--kids need that , too.

Who’s In Charge Here?

The truth is, as much as we think kids are controlling our lives, they often feel the exact opposite. Finding simple ways of letting kids assert some control will allow them to feel good about their choices instead of looking for ways to get more power.


When Children Come “Pre-Wired”

We might believe that we’re encouraging our children to be who and what they want to be, but we probably also assume our children will naturally follow in our footsteps. Is this assumption preventing us from having close, connected relationships with our children?

What!? Take care of me first?!

Self-Care Is Not Selfish

Without nurturing their own energy, passion, and health–and without setting limits on their own activity–women are useful to no one. Self-care is about controlling your own health and happiness. It means the people in your life receive the best of you rather than what is left of you.

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Three Simple Steps to Accepting Imperfection

Sometimes we get a little too obsessed with perfection. Perfect children, perfect dinner, perfect schedule, and (of course) a perfectly clean and organized home. Then we look at reality! Here’s my new definition of perfection.


5 Tips for Extroverts Raising Introverts (video included!)

What does it look like when an extroverted mother tries to raise an introverted child? For me, not so pretty at first. I’m still learning and adjusting my own behavior, but I’d like to share with you five tips that I think every extroverted mother should know when raising an introverted child.

All 3 Kids

I Dressed Myself

I can’t help but wonder what I am communicating when my family leaves the house. You see, my children dress themselves. Partly because that is one less thing I have to do for them, but mostly because they insist upon it. I have chosen not to fight that battle.

Farnoosh and Aria Shahrokhshahi

Is Your Child a Success?

Farnoosh Shahrokhshahi’s reaction to the passing grade his son, Aria, earned in math put them both on the Today Show. After seeing this father’s reaction (and the effect it had on his son), Allyson realized again how important it is to understand there are varying definitions of “success”, and to celebrate those successes like crazy.

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One-on-One Time with Our Kids: Why We Must and How We Can

It was hard to believe this morning as I was racing to the high school with my oldest daughter and giving her a “talking to” about getting in bed earlier so she wouldn’t miss her bus in the mornings that this time last week we were having the time of our lives together on a […]

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Should We Prioritize Excellence?

A few months ago, I took my children to an amazing concert and watched children perform amazing feats with their instruments. It was breathtaking to see these small people execute extremely difficult music. Then I wondered, do I have a gifted musician in my family?