A1. On your weekly date, have a rule that you cannot talk about the children.  If that rule seems impossible, then set the timer and after 20 minutes there can be no mention of the children or home problems for the rest of the night.  Just focus on your relationship.  The best thing the children can have is a mom and a dad who are still madly in love. 

    A2. Go on a date every week—to the gym to play racquetball, to the local bookstores to read books, to the driving range to hit golf balls…just get out together.