Submitted by Jessica Hicks
I became a mother six and a half years ago, and now have three beautiful children. To be honest, mothering has been what I had hoped and expected it to be. But what I didn’t realize is how easily I am affected by the negative patterns of parenting (abuse) that I learned growing up. Nobody is perfect, mothering is hard work, and to mother with intention and purpose is even more challenging.
What I want to say is that it IS possible to be a link in the family chain that changes the pattern of abusive behavior.
Just recently I was speaking with my family doctor. While we talked about some personal things, he said, “You are a big girl, you can make your own decisions.” Yes, nearly 30 is old enough to make my own decisions! I am beginning the process of mothering with intention, fully “cutting the apron strings” and putting the negative influences of my childhood behind me, so I can quit making excuses for others and focus on my own family: me, my husband and our children.
I am the link in our family chain that will change the course of my children and future generations. I can move forward and mother with a greater intention to love, uplift, and help my children reach their potential, through mothering with intention.
QUESTION: Are there negative parenting patterns in your family history you need to overcome?
CHALLENGE: Identify a negative behavior you learned growing up and begin to change it. We all have something! Seek professional help, if necessary.